Is it Better To Have Love And Lost?

Oh, heartache. How familiar that feeling is. The feeling of total and utter despair. The feeling that your life is over because you see no more reason to go on after your so called loved one left you. That feeling that life doesn't make sense anymore, the world doesn't make really exist anymore because the pain is just to unbearable to cope. It crushes down on your chest and makes it impossible to take a single breath, leaving you with that utter misery that has now consumed you.

Yes. I do know how that feels. And yes, I have felt all that. I have cried my eyes out all day in bed, and yes. I have gotten up, and each day the pain eased a little and breathing became a little easier. Then I got up, took a shower, got dressed. Then I stepped outside. And you know what, I didn't desintegrate. I didn't fall apart into the disheveled mess I was. I took a step back, sure, because I was pathetic for so long, I forgot how to hold my head up high again, and treat myself with the respect I deserve. Sure, it'll be lonesome without him. It'll be harder, tougher. But if he had you in his arms and just decided to let you go, not only is he a total tool, he just wasn't that into you in the first place.

That film was first a book, and it was an eye opener on many levels. If a guy doesn't call you back, he's not interested. Because a guy doesn't follow the rules we women laid out, such as after a first date the guy can only call back after a certain number of days. Please!! If a guy likes you, he'll text you after you've gone inside your house from his car, saying how much he can't wait to see you again. If a guy says he's incredibly busy, but wants to see you after a certain time, on a certain date, at a certain location that's completely random, he's not only NOT into you, he's also not into somebody ELSE. Men are the MASTER of excuses. If he gives you one in order not to see you, or why he hasn't called, then guess what ladies??

Courtesy of MSNBC

I was reading on MSNBC about a woman in China who tried committing suicide in her wedding dress because she was jilted a few days before her wedding. Her idiot of a fiance married someone else. My heart goes out to her and I shed sincere tears for her. No one should ever go through that in a million years. It does seem like that heartbreak will never mend, but suicide over someone else is NEVER an option. They are not worth YOUR life. YOUR life is a precious commodity. Never let it slip through your fingers. But I do hope that she does feel that women all over the world are compassionate to her story. Some may even have similar stories. But we grieve her heartache with her. We send out love to her at a time where she feels loveless. We reach out to her in caring when she feels worthless.

Breathe easy, girls. Take a deep breath because you are worth it. You are the half of a whole. You are a diamond in the rough. You are somebody's exception to "the rules" (yes, I know. I really did like the film!). Do not despair. Do not lose hope. You are BEAUTIFUL. EXOTIC. LOVELY. CREATIVE. CARING. NURTURING. THOUGHTFUL. The "right" guy does exist. He might not be right for somebody else and in somebody else's eyes, but he is right for you, the perfect fit. Do not be afraid to put yourself out there. There's that famous saying: Gotta kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. Just don't settle for the frog.

I thought when love for you died, I should die. It's dead. Alone, most strangely, I live on. ~Rupert Brooke