Hold Me Now, It's Hard For Me To Say I'm Sorry....

Ah, that old Chicago song, Hard To Say I'm Sorry is always on the radio. Maybe it's because sometimes, quite often, SOMEONE screws up and has to apologize. What's the ratio on that--for every two people, one makes the mistake? Because that sounds about right.

HUMANITY. It is flawed. We are flawed creatures because of original sin. Now before you go of blaming Adam and Eve for all sorts of mals that's going on in the world, think about it. God created us with free will. FREE WILL. The ability to let us do whatever we want and make the choices that we want to do. However, it's how we deal with the consequences of our actions that make us either decent people or just plain idiots.

I mean, Adam and Eve's always going to be known as the couple who screwed up paradise with God for us. They managed to make that horrible mistake of not following one simple rule: DON'T EAT THE FRUIT. Now they're left wanting and with memories of perfection. We'll never know how that feels because perfection ceased to exist after that, so at least we don't have to ever suffer like Adam and Eve did. But do you think they spent the rest of their mortal days on Earth blaming each other? Even after their children went at it with rocks and knives and such, I don't know if they'd be blaming each other. In order to live life without any rancor, you have to learn to forgive, and you have to ASK for forgiveness. Swallow your pride!!!! And don't just say 'I'm Sorry' just so say it, and with hopes of getting them to forget about it. Forgive and forget just doesn't work. Whoever came up with that little phrase was ABSOLUTELY dead wrong. It just simply does not work. You can forgive, sure. But the act that needed forgiviness in the first place will never be erased from memory. Unless the person gets some sort of amnesia.

You can never wipe the slate clean with someone. The streaks from the chalk are still visible. But this is where it gets interesting. People tend to get fuzzy on memory if they don't have that constant reminder of a lack of apology. The words that the apology wiped away can't be brought back. You can still see the streaks, sure. But no longer can those streaks turn into words. So it's a start.

Now here's the thing: don't be one of those people that try to rehash the past by rubbing people's faults in their faces. If you forgave, great. LET GO. I'm not saying to forget; it's your prerogative as to whether or not you want to do that. But I am saying, LET GO. It only causes unwanted wrinkles and worry lines on your face, streaks your hair with premature gray, and it may even cause more tears and sorrow, so no one really wants that more than they need. So do yourself the favor. Be the bigger person. Let go of whatever's holding you back from forgiveness, either giving or receiving.

To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness. - Robert Muller